Welcome!

The pages on this site are largely devoted to the concept of Coming Out. If you are heterosexual, this concept is probably a bit foreign to you. The term Coming Out refers to 'announcing', in some form or another, your sexual identity.

This is something that heterosexuals usually do not need to do as most people are assumed to be heterosexual unless shown otherwise. Further, being heterosexual generally does not have any stigmas attached to it.

Being non-heterosexual is a different matter. As a gay man, I have had to come out often. I have come out by writing letters, by telling people, and even by just having a picture of my partner on my desk. But I have done it frequently, and will continue to do so for the remainder of my life.

Coming out is not for all people and nor is it always required. There are some instances where it may just not be worthwhile coming out. There are times when you neither have to come out nor hide, but the next step still isn't an option. Don't feel that this site is all about pushing a "you must come out" mentality on you. There are two questions that you should ask yourself whenever you think about coming out to anyone - "am I comfortable with this?" and "am I safe doing this?"

Ultimately, coming out is your choice and no-one else can make it for you. No choice can be made without information though, and that's what this site is about!

New! - I have been asked by researchers at the University of La Trobe to add a link to a survey they are doing. To quote them, it is "a research project which aims to understand how young same sex attracted youth (14 to 21) use the Internet to explore their sexuality."

You can go to the survey by following this link.